---Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

---莫罕达斯·卡拉姆昌德·甘地

People often talk about love, but most of us are not fully aware about its true essence. There is lot of misconception about efficacy of love that holds us back to generate loving feelings towards others.

人们总在谈论爱，但多数人没有真正意识到爱的精髓。对于爱的作用有很多误读，这种误读让我们重新定位对他人的爱，这种爱出自内心。

Love is not possessiveness. People look love as a possession that has to be acquired and preserved. To expect that others ought to provide it to us so that our life is filled with love is the biggest fallacy, which is cause of much unhappiness. It is not like any other material thing to be demanded from others. Even if other person offers us plenty of love, we may not be able to feel it. It is normal to blame others for not loving us, but much depends on our inner self whether it has capability to feel it from others.

爱不是占有欲。人们将爱看成一种私有财产而去获取和收藏。人们期待他人给自己以爱，以便自己的生活为爱所围绕，这是一个最大的错误，这是导致很多痛苦的原因。这种爱不像来自婚姻的爱，来自婚姻的爱是你索要的。即使他人施舍我们大量的爱，我们却无法感知。责怪他人没有给予我们爱是不正常的，但对爱的感知更多取决于内在的自我，看它是否有能力感知来自他人的爱。

Love is a feeling of well being and of good emotions. It is an activity that keeps us in good spirit and is liked to our emotions. Let us engage and create feeling of love by making self capable through appropriate changes in our dealings with others. There is no other way to love and be loved. The physical intimacy devoid of good feelings is not love but lust. People often fail to conceive love as pious in essence. While dealing with others, let us take care that our dealings make them cheerful, by helping them to come out of their problem, appreciate their successes and be grateful for help received from them. All these activities are to express love. The benefit of giving love to others is that it appeals to our heart and makes us connected to others, provides stability and security, removes fear and gives a feeling of being good towards other people. One can get to know love by first generating such feelings of being good to others. How can a person feel love from others if he is filled with ego, anger and selfish tendencies? These negative emotions suppress inner urge to love others.

爱是一种安宁和良好的感觉。它是一种使我们精神平和，类似于其他情感的活动。让我们身心投入地创造一种爱，它会使我们有能力作出恰当的改变，这种改变关乎于同他人良好关系的处理。爱和被爱没有其他的途径。缺乏良好感觉的身体亲密接触，不是出自爱，而是出自*。人们通常不把爱想象成一种精致的信仰。在同他人交往的过程中，我们得谨慎地处理好这种关系。通过我们帮助他们走出困境，赏识他们的成功，对来自他们的帮助表示感恩之情。这样做的目的是使他们快乐。所有这些活动都是爱的表达。给他人以爱是有好处的。它给我们内心以迷恋的情愫，使我们走近他人，给他们提供稳定的安全保障，消除他们同别人交往时的恐惧，并使他们心情舒适。一个人可以首先通过这种舒适的心情的产生来认识爱，来对他人示以友善。如果一个人心中只装有自我、只有愤怒以及自私的倾向，如何能从他人身上感到爱意？这些负面的情感压制着自己内心的去爱他人的欲求。